Undone

Okay– This is too important not to post about.

(To Read the whole thing go Here)

They fear intimacy, yet – self-contradicting – have an intense fear of being alone or abandoned.

That’s like uber hello, ME!

I’m frustrated and angry, Why didnt’ my therapist in the first place tell me I was this type? They knew, they had to know. How could they not? I specifically told them “I love people, but i’m scared of them….” And no one cares. None of them

And every time I get a friend… I’m like the little girl in preschool She says “I’m sorry” and holds her friend really tight, and smiles at her, and then PUSHES her away, hard. So that the little friend goes scooting across the floor, the process continues…

Signs that you may be a codependent Abuser

Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship

Inability to feel comfortable when alone

Feelings of being different or not like others

Confusion, or a deep sense of inadequacy

Feeling either totally responsible or completely without blame

Extreme dependency on your mate, and an intense fear of abandonment

Unyielding and in need of constant control over all aspects of the relationship

Extremely low self esteem and may be very self-critical

Difficulty in developing or sustaining meaningful relationships. Long line of failed relationships of which the codependent believes the other partner was always to blame

Lies for no reason. Creates a ‘false self’ that the outside world sees

Denies or refuses to recognize that his actions are not ‘normal’ behaviors

Denies feelings of fear, insecurity, inadequacy, guilt, hurt, or shame with self

Gets bored easily, needs to feel excitement